|Making a connection
7 doable ideas for couples on the run In the midst of a busy life, how can you
take your marriage to the next level of friendship and intimacy? Just try these
seven quick, doable, guilt-free tips for a month, and watch your marriage soar!
1. Lighten up!
Remember the silly, romantic things you did while dating-such as talking in
funny accents, tickling or wrestling with each other, playing footsies under
the dinner table, or kissing under the stars-and do them again. After all,
laughter's still the best medicine-even for a marriage that isn't ailing.
2. Show your appreciation.
Who doesn't like a pat on the back? Yet, most often, the person we forget to
thank is the one closest to us. Hey, he's my husband, you might think. He's
supposed to do things such as take out the trash and shovel the driveway. Why
should I thank him for that when I do the dishes all the time? But you'd be
amazed how a little appreciation can fine-tune an already good relationship.
3. Talk your spouse's language.
Every person has a unique way he or she best feels loved, the way they
understand and receive love. It could be giving a surprise or writing a
sentimental message. If you don't know your spouse's favorite way to feel
loved, ask, "What makes you feel most loved? Most accepted? Most excited?" Then
learn to speak that "language" and watch your spouse's eyes shine.
4. Dream together.
Never underestimate the power of a dream. Before you even met your spouse, you
dreamed about the person you'd marry someday-and what your life together would
be like. Why not talk about, and renew, those dreams together? The rewards of
dreaming together are huge-they provide not only some fun goals to shoot for,
but a renewed passion for soul intimacy.
5. Adopt a vision!
To maintain an exciting "couple vision," look for a shared passion.
6. Pray for-and with-each other.
The old adage is true: "The couple who prays together stays together." That's
because prayer itself is such an intimate activity. When you pray not only for,
but with someone, you're agreeing to make yourself vulnerable. As you and your
spouse pray together, concerns may arise that otherwise could become big issues
and cause division in your relationship down the road.
7. Don't forget the surprises!
Everybody loves surprises. But let's admit it-after you've been married for a
few years, there are fewer and fewer of them. Many times that's good; after
all, who wants always to be on their toes? But a life without surprises can be
a dull one indeed. There's nothing like a surprise to say, "I love you! And I'd
choose you all over again."
So go ahead, don't wait for a Hallmark holiday. After all, every day with your
spouse is a special occasion, because out of all the people in the world, your
mate chose you. Now that's certainly something to celebrate!