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Be a Successful Spouse
If we have good parents, then we tend to recall our childhood as happy. Consequently, if the children are good, then the parents did their job well. The deciding factor is love. The quality of our life is greatly determined by our parents' love. If we don't receive proper love as children, then our hearts are not fully developed. Generally speaking, those who can give and receive love had a good childhood.

The value of the Blessing

After the Blessing, if you feel your spouse is cold toward you and can't receive love, then perhaps their childhood was not good. In other words, ironically, one could say that my happiness is determined by my spouse's childhood. Our quality of life is determined not by money or knowledge, but the love we received during infancy.

All religions have made a great mistake. They teach that we have to perfect ourselves. The True Parents are the only ones to have declared that it is my spouse who perfects me.

Five attributes of a husband's love are interest, responsibility, understanding, respect, and giving first. It is very important that we check ourselves regularly in these areas in relationship to your wife.

  • 1. Pay attention

    The fact that you wake up in the morning is a miracle. Everyday should be looked upon as a gift from God. Look at each other's eyes. We should help each other. If your husband is ill, then the wife must bear some responsibility. If you don't love your husband/wife to this degree, you cannot possibly prepare the conditions for your eternal life.

    Our spouse is so precious. Check his/her eyes for health. If there is no love, always check the eyes. If the husband/wife doesn't want to look at you, then something may be wrong. It is our original mind trying to tell us something. Paying attention to our spouse's every gesture, act, and word is a habit of love that we all need to develop. It doesn't cost us a penny but can generate an invaluable return investment.

  • 2. Love means to take responsibility

    We should take responsibility for our mission/jobs. The perfection of our character comes through a life of faith. The goal of a life of faith is to perfect our character and to take responsibility for our family and job. The worst character trait for a person is to be irresponsible. Husbands must learn how to proportion each day so both family and mission receive your full ability, talents, and love.

  • 3. Love comes from understanding

    Even a small misunderstanding has the potential to separate the husband and wife. How can we increase understanding? Dialogue and communication. Don't chastise or judge your spouse. Instead, take time and report to each other. At the end of the day tell each other everything. Your spouse is your best friend. Understanding entails forgiveness. This is why the messiah comes. Without forgiveness, you are not husband and wife, but just "companions." Your spouse is not just a roommate. She is your personal channel to eternal life. If there is no forgiveness, then we may miss the possibility to enter the Kingdom of Heaven.
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